Can of Worms?

So I have wondered for the last few months on whether to write about this or not, simply because I feel I could be opening a can of worms. However, anyone that knows me knows I am not afraid to handle hot topics.

Recently, I was on Facebook and saw a blog post on a page I follow titled "Mixed Children are the Prettiest- Racism". So of course, I felt inclined to click it and read. Well, the author was mixed herself and she was writing of how she was in the grocery store the other day and a woman came up and said "aww, your daughter is so cute, but then again mixed babies are the cutest." The author said she simply replied "thank you, but all God's children are beautiful." The author said she felt horrible for the white lady standing behind her with her white baby, because the woman told her daughter.. sweetheart you are adorable too. Obviously the intent of the stranger was not to offend anyone, however these are the things we do not necessarily think about before we speak.

I know when we first had Braeden, people said that all the time, and I never once thought about it the way this woman wrote. To me race has never been something I paid attention to, I have also never made the comment "mixed babies are the cutest." I have just always commented on the child, not their race. So I guess for those friends who have said this, I don't think any of you meant it in a harmful way, but next time before you say it think about how it may make someone else feel. If someone said "black babies are the cutest" or "white babies are the cutest" that person would be considered racist, and in this woman's blog she was stating how this is no different.

With that, I have a lingering question, I of all people have no prejudice against anyone but I keep seeing things on my news feed and it makes me wonder the true thought of some of my facebook friends. So I figured I would address it. I have lots of friends who post things like "black love rocks" "black pride" "black women united" and there are many others but I can't remember all the names. Now without trying to stir anything up-- because that is far from my intention I just want to know from the black perspective how would you ladies feel it you saw "white pride" "white love rocks" or "white women united"? To me solely "white" items are labeled as racists, so what is the difference? I know most of the women who post these things are far from racists, but similar the blog I posted about above, it is all in the way your messages are received. I guess race has always been a hot topic for me because my family and I catch hell from white people and black people in regards to us being interracial. Which brings me to my next question, I have seen on Facebook "friends" of mine posting snide comments about people who do mix race and how black women are strong and white women are inferior which is why black men choose white women and many other non-sense things like this. **If you post things like this on Facebook, just know that 1) it is 2013 and men choose women for the qualities that they have, not their race, and 2) I think each race has it's strong, weak, ignorant, educated, and so forth.

Comments like these make people look closed minded and ignorant, and I KNOW that the people who post these things on Facebook are neither of these, so I wanted to provide a new perspective for the things you post. I know I have posted some things in the past that annoy people, and once addressed I have taken it down, because the last thing I would ever want to do is offend someone, so if this blog offends you then I apologize -- it was not my intent. This is just an issue that I feel needs to be addressed because if any of the above is in fact the way people feel, then I need to clean up my friends list because I do not need that negativity around me, my husband, or my son.

The way I see it, God created everyone equally and if you choose to marry or date within your race, that is your decision no different than those people who choose to marry or date outside their race. My point is I hope that this blog makes people who genuinely care about how they come across to be more aware about how the things they post can be received. I love you all and hopefully can gain some knowledge about why people post these things and the meaning behind it.

With love
Me :)