Let's talk about SEX baby ;)

So with the new movie trailer of "Fifty Shades of Grey" that came out today, it got me thinking about how well your sex life really is... us women so quickly get wrapped up in the mystery of "Christian Grey" but do we still get wrapped up in our husbands?



Now, don't worry I this blog is solely rhetorical ;) And I will not be sharing specifics about my personal sex life because well, that's for me and Calvin... I will say I have no complaints :)

It seems so easy when you first start out to date, that romance level is so high... that gaze from your partner can  make you melt with out even being touched. But when you are touched, that warm embrace of a hug, or the soft kiss from a long day apart--- makes your toes curl and your tummy flutter. The desire to have sex in the beginning is so high, that's the easy part. But how do you keep that spark alive?

How do you make time for intimacy with your spouse when you both work full time jobs, you may go to school on top of that, what if you have a child, multiple children.. or what if you just haven't felt that spark to try?

Well-- the answer is YOU have to MAKE time. 1 Corinthians 7:3 says "The Husband should fulfill his wife's sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband's sexual needs." How do we do that exactly? We need to take time to understand how to meet each other's needs. Of course that seems simple, but in most cases it's not. Men in general tend to be more focused on the physical aspects of things: the seeing, the touching, the feeling. Where as women tend to be more focused on the emotional aspect of things: feeling loved, cared for, and feeling appreciated.

Be silly and don't take everything so serious!

It's easy for sex especially for us women to get put on the back burner; after all once we have kids our minds no longer tick about ourselves only- we worry about our kids, our husbands, our house, cooking dinner, laundry, our pets, and the million things we volunteered to do knowing we don't have enough time in the day. BUT whether you choose to believe it or not, sex plays a huge part in a marriage. It can even break a marriage if put off too long. So with that, if you love your spouse take the time to find out what makes them tick again, put some effort into it, and most of all have some fun!! It shouldn't matter whether you are 20 or 80 years old, incorporating fun into your sexual life should be natural.

Ladies stop using the "headache, tummy ache, I'm tired", routine. Stop being confined to the same position every single time, and stop limiting your spouse to once a month. Strive for once a week, and make it important. If you're already at once a week-- strive for 2-3x a week.

I've seen far too many women talk about how after they have split with their spouse they "wish" they would have put forth more effort, etc... why wait-- why not start today? I know this is a topic that a lot of people are embarrassed about, but realistically it's natural, normal, and something that needs to be important in our relationships.

Throughout my blogs, I will be sharing some of the devotions that Calvin and I are doing- mainly the ones that hit home for us. <3

8 years together, 5 years married and he still has my heart <3 

Goal for today- well most likely tomorrow since it's almost midnight-- make your spouse remember that spark if you've lost it, go on a date, build up to a hot night alone... NO EXCUSES! Find the time, make it happen. :)

With love,
Me