Mommy Confessions

Good morning fellow moms!

I am sure we all had had our guilty moments or moments we have learned from, after all there is no handbook instruction manual for every kid. Below are some of my confessions, hope you will share yours!

I admit our son slept with us in our bed for the first 6-7 weeks on and off. He had bad reflux issues so my husband and I thought it was best... then we said okay by the time he is 3 months we will put him in his own room. (By 2 months he was sleeping in his own bassinet, just in our room) ... well he will be 4 months old the 28 and this is his second night in his room. He is doing great... he falls asleep around 10-11 and sleeps til 7am. He wakes a few times through the night, but nothing where he gets out of his bed. Needless to say the transition has been harder on Calvin and I than Braeden of course, but he seems better rested so that makes me feel better.

Recently we started this teething stuff, and for the most part he seems fine but then he will have a bad day here and there where they seem to hurt particularly bad. Normally cold teethers, my finger, chew toys, or rocking and cuddling with one of the mentioned but the other night we broke down and gave him infant tylenol because that seemed to be our only solution. Soon after he seemed much better. I hate taking medicine and I hate the idea of giving it to him, but I also hate seeing him in such pain.

I will also admit that there were a few nights early on that Braeden actually slept on me through the night.. now I would sleep in a sitting position with pillows around me so he would not fall but still. And when he did sleep in he bed with us, he slept on his infant bobby pillow for safety. I just figured he was not sleeping the other way and neither were we, so therefore during the day I felt run down.

Most of you all know I am not a fan of the "crying it out" method. Unless you have a child that just cries to cry, which I do not really believe in I just do not understand how that seems okay? I mean there is a big difference between 5 minutes and 30 as well. Braeden has cried before for 5 minutes or so if I needed to use the bathroom, or fix me something to eat... but just letting him cry to teach him he wont get his way? That seems crazy. I know I may bump a few toes on this one, but quite frankly I think it is lazy parenting to just let your kid cry and cry. Something is obviously wrong with them if they keep crying. Now I am talking about my child age (4 months and younger). However, I do not feel there is a need even when he is a year old or so to just let him cry and cry. Again a short moment is one thing, and obviously parents know there kids, Braeden only cries when something is wrong, so that is why I feel this way. Not to mention studies link several cases of children who have a lack of confidence and emotional problems to being left to cry it out as a child. So for those moms who say "let um cry, it wont hurt anything... you are wrong." I just feel like it is my job as a parent to keep my baby happy, healthy, and safe at all times to the best of my ability. I do know, that Braeden knows when he is upset or whatever may be wrong... he knows mom and dad love him and even if we do not pick him up, we hold his hand and re-assure him everything will be okay. And at the end of the day, I have a happy boy who smiles all the time, loves his mommy and daddy, and guess what... rarely cries :)

Speaking of crying another confession, in the beginning, Braeden fought sleep so bad.. so I thought. Turns out I was mistaken and he was not really ready to go to sleep and here I am trying everything to put him to sleep thinking that is what I am supposed to do, and in reality he is crying like mom... Im not tired lol. So now, we play and play until he cant keep his eyes open, I rock him for a minute and lay him down. No fighting sleep, and needless to say a learning experience! lol.

One a side note... I read this the other day and it infuriated me. This mom was talking about how her kid was so full of energy and wanted to play and she was going to give her benedryl (sp) so she would take a nap, so the mom could watch tv and rest... are you serious?! It should be illegal for parents to do that.. it is essentially drugging your kid! Anyways that was a side rant..

Anywho, I apologize for any grammatical/ spelling errors as I did this blog while feeding Braeden on my kindle.

Okay brag moment, nursing is still going great, and baby food is going good! He likes sweet peas and peaches as long as they are cold, and bananas cold or room temperature.

Love watching him grow, but already missing the little boy that would take naps on mommy. Now he is too long, and it is not as comfortable for him. lol.

Hope you guys will comment with your learning moments, rants, or brag moments :)